| Wedding Planning Etiquette: To Ask or Not to Ask? | | | | Institute's current spokesperson, Peggy Post, "Money |
| Who Pays for What? | | | | makes an ideal gift, and it does not hurt that there are |
| Money -- to ask or not to ask? Who pays for what? | | | | now many excellent options for monetary gifting." |
| Discussing money is never easy, especially for couples | | | | What are these options? |
| who do not know the first thing about wedding | | | | For one, there are gift checks. There are also personal |
| planning etiquette. Moreover, the answer to your | | | | checks. Additionally, companies like American Express |
| money questions are bound to vary, depending on | | | | now offer special gift checks that are not only |
| who you ask. So, what's the real score on asking for | | | | wedding-themed but actually allow couples to hold on |
| money as a wedding present? And, going back to the | | | | to the check until they figure out what they want to |
| second question, who gets to pay for what? | | | | use it for. In a nutshell, asking for money as a present |
| Getting the Word Out | | | | is perfectly acceptable. Just be sure to do it with |
| Wedding planning etiquette dictates that even if it is | | | | diplomacy and sensitivity. |
| money that you need as a present, do not ever put | | | | Who Pays for What? |
| down a request for cash in your invitation. You can get | | | | Another sensitive issue in wedding planning etiquette is |
| the word out with the help of friends and family | | | | who pays for what. Many couples find this subject so |
| members. However, this has to be done with care and | | | | touchy that they avoid discussing it altogether. This |
| tact. For instance, if one of the guests ask what the | | | | should not be the case because working out a budget |
| couple is most likely to appreciate as a present, the | | | | is necessary. A decade ago, the burden of paying for |
| best response would be that anything is welcome, but | | | | the wedding rested solely on the shoulders of the |
| money might be high up on their list because... (at this | | | | bride's father. Today, the lines are no longer tightly |
| point, feel free to fill in the blank with a reason or two). | | | | drawn. Because many of the couples getting married |
| If you need the cash to buy furnishings, for example, | | | | do so when they already have money of their own, |
| then have your friends and family say so. It is also a | | | | expenses are shared. The groom's family now |
| good idea to include the reason in the thank you note | | | | shoulder part of the expenses, too. |
| that you will send out later on. | | | | These are only some of the money-related issues that |
| Gifts Are Good, But We Need Cash | | | | you can handle with care, given proper knowledge of |
| The good news is that though money will always be a | | | | wedding planning etiquette. Do yourself a favor and |
| delicate subject as far as wedding planning etiquette is | | | | get a guide that walks you through the process, from |
| concerned, it seems to be the present most people | | | | start to finish. Then, and only then, can you throw the |
| are willing to give anyway. According to the Emily Post | | | | wedding of your dreams beautifully! |